I’m attempting to come out the other side of a burnout and although intellectually I know what I need to do (rest, align expectations to capacity, activate self compassion…) I struggle to override 50+ years of patterns and not helpful strategies. It is so easy to revert to pre-discovery ways of acting that never served us particularly well. I struggle with the reality that my capacity seems to have diminished and my autistic traits increased since menopause - I’m pissed off! Thanks for creating this place for sharing and learning and building self acceptance - it’s really helping me get understand and manage myself better.
It really is the hardest thing, essentially we need to reprogramme ourselves to this whole new way of being; easy it is not! I’m pissed off too! The fact that all of this new information about our brains has coincided with diminishing hormones or hormones in flux is not helping! Thanks so much for being here Christine. In November I’m focusing on the topic of Healing (it’s coming with a lot of procrastination! Where to start?! We’ll see what comes when I start writing tomorrow) Let me know if there’s anything specific you’re curious about or finding resistance to around healing from late life neurodivergent discovery.
I can relate to this so much Andrea, your insight is spot on as always. You've been powering through with little regard to your own needs, but it's time to slow down and be gentle with yourself. I struggle with the internal ableism too, it feels like default thinking due to a lifetime of trying to be enough.
Thank you Sophie. Exactly that. I wish it didn't take getting burned out to remember to be gentle and kind to ourselves. It's so good to surface all this uncomfortable stuff we've carried about trying to be "enough" (but not too much!)
I’m attempting to come out the other side of a burnout and although intellectually I know what I need to do (rest, align expectations to capacity, activate self compassion…) I struggle to override 50+ years of patterns and not helpful strategies. It is so easy to revert to pre-discovery ways of acting that never served us particularly well. I struggle with the reality that my capacity seems to have diminished and my autistic traits increased since menopause - I’m pissed off! Thanks for creating this place for sharing and learning and building self acceptance - it’s really helping me get understand and manage myself better.
It really is the hardest thing, essentially we need to reprogramme ourselves to this whole new way of being; easy it is not! I’m pissed off too! The fact that all of this new information about our brains has coincided with diminishing hormones or hormones in flux is not helping! Thanks so much for being here Christine. In November I’m focusing on the topic of Healing (it’s coming with a lot of procrastination! Where to start?! We’ll see what comes when I start writing tomorrow) Let me know if there’s anything specific you’re curious about or finding resistance to around healing from late life neurodivergent discovery.
I can relate to this so much Andrea, your insight is spot on as always. You've been powering through with little regard to your own needs, but it's time to slow down and be gentle with yourself. I struggle with the internal ableism too, it feels like default thinking due to a lifetime of trying to be enough.
Thank you Sophie. Exactly that. I wish it didn't take getting burned out to remember to be gentle and kind to ourselves. It's so good to surface all this uncomfortable stuff we've carried about trying to be "enough" (but not too much!)