Dear neurokin,
This month’s LEARN includes:
A conversation with Interpersonal Psychotherapist and Therapeutic Coach
A Learning Resource Alice has developed for Belong subscribers, which includes an Attachment Theory questionnaire for you to identify your attachment type.
I learned so much from this conversation with Alice where she explains in depth:
friendship challenges for neurodivergent people
how our friendship patterns can give you clues to your underlying struggles
The Attachment Theory
Inner/Outer friendship circles
Questions for you to consider how you want to shape some of your friendships.
How using the Attachment Theory can help us develop the relationships we want
In the very early days, when I was first discovered I’m autistic, I was part of a learning community which was running workshop about the Attachment theory.
The person running it is a Dating Coach and I arrived at the workshop looking for more insight into how to communicate better with my partner.
I was in for quite a few surprises in that workshop! I learned a whole lot more about myself than I had anticipated.
I knew I was anxious in all my relationships, because I never seemed to communicate in ways that others did. I was always hyper vigilant for signs of wrongness and I was ‘masking’ difficulties that I wasn’t even aware of.
Learning about how my Attachment type was affecting me in all of my relationships, including my friendships, helped me to understand not only was I anxious but also avoidant.
I really, really wanted to have close connections to people who mattered most to me but was struggling because of the weight of fear I was carrying.
I’d got it so wrong in the past it was making me avoid close connection.
Understanding this, along with really starting to consider which of my friendships were making me feel good and which weren’t, helped me to grow in confidence to be more of myself in friendships I really wanted in my life.
That’s just one of the reasons I thought that covering the Attachment Theory in this month’s LEARN session about Friendship would be really valuable to Belong subscribers.
Your Friendship Learning Resource
A huge thanks to
who has been so generous in sharing these resources with Belong…we are neurokin subscribers
We’d love to hear what you got from both the conversation and the learning resource
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